[Jaycobsmom620]

Ok so I know that all mothers worry but here lately , well for several months now it seems like I worry excessively, I mean VERY excessively. And the thing is its about EVERYTHING! From things I cannot control to the things I can. I have always been a little bit of a worry wart but nothing like this. It has become so consuming. I lay in bed for a good 45 minutes every night before going to sleep and just think about scary things that could happen but probably never will and I will convince myself to think of happy things so I can fall asleep and well a happy thought can turn into a worry like that! For example, I was thinking about our upcoming trip to the beach next week and how much fun we are going to have and suddenly I thought about the possibility of one of the kids drowning!!! I mean for Petes sake I make EVERYTHING so stressful on myself and I am sure I am a pain to deal with because I worry about everything. I dont want to be this way at all, but Im not really sure if there is a fix though. I try to relax and just not think about things but like I said I am always fearful of something happening to one of my kids or family members and it has come to control me on a daily basis. You would think something tragic happened to put this fear in me but nothing has. About a yr ago I suddenly started having this HUGE fear of death but other than that nothing has taken place. But it has gotten to the point that at night when laying in bed if I think about death or something tragic happening to my kids I have to get out of bed and do something to take the thought away. Anyway, thank you all for listening to my rambling, just curious to see if anyone else is like this or knows anyone like it.

[MissyChrissy]

(((HUGS))) It could be a little bit of an anxiety disorder. Have you made an appt with your dr? You can take a mild medication that should help with that.

[DivasMomma]

wow....i have been EXACTLY the same way lately!!! All i keep thinking about is how one of us is gonna die...its horrible right?? How about when you are driving? Do you just see a terrible accident in your eyes, even though there's nothing crazy going on the road?? I agree about the anxiety meds, I know I'm definitely bringing it up to my doc next appt!

[Jaycobsmom620]

Originally Posted by DivasMomma

wow....i have been EXACTLY the same way lately!!! All i keep thinking about is how one of us is gonna die...its horrible right?? How about when you are driving? Do you just see a terrible accident in your eyes, even though there's nothing crazy going on the road?? I agree about the anxiety meds, I know I'm definitely bringing it up to my doc next appt!

That is so crazy you mentioned the driving thing, because I have been a mess worrying about our vacation this coming week. It's like I go into a ttrip expecting something awful to happen! I hate that feeling, but its not a feeling that you can just say "oh quit worrying " ya know? Its like theres always this looming worry about something tragic even when things are going good. ANd that seems to be when it is at its worst cause its like Oh well things are going too good so something bad is bound to happen. I looked up General Anxiety Dosorder and it was like someone wrote that diagnosis about me! Crazy stuff. I am def going to have to ask my dr about it. I would LOVE nothing more than to quit worrying so much.

[vanaden]

You are definatley not alone. I lie awake many nights and cry, just thinking of terrible things that may never happen!

[QueenAngie]

Every mother has worries, that is normal.
But, when those worries are keeping you awake for 45 minutes,
time to tell your doctor these concerns.
It is anxiety and there is medications that will help.

A few other things:
Write in a daily journal about life and what is going on.
Meditate or prayer every day.
Get some exercise every day.

(((Hugs)))

[Jaycobsmom620]

I like the journal idea I willt give that a try and as for prayer, I find that is the only way I can fall asleep most nights is by praying. It also helps knowing that I am not an oddball and that there are other people here that understand and reading about Anxiety disorders was almost comforting in a strange way because realizing thats more than likely the problem and Im not just crazy is somewhat of a relief.

[kalhayd2]

(((hugs)) Nikki. I feel ya, I do. I tend to obsess over the what could happen in life, too. I've since been doing a lot of praying to help me get through my fears.Hope your doc has some answers for you. Try to enjoy your vacation.

[LovingJesusinAZ]

I'm with you. I'm a worry wart by nature and marriage and motherhood have made it worse.

I was a flight attendant for 5 years. A few months before I quit, and just before DH and I got engaged, I basically had a breakdown on the plane because I was worried about something happening to my flight. Basically I became a flight attendant who was afraid to fly. (I had to continue flying for a few months afterwards in order to become fully vested in my 401k)

I went on meds for awhile and it definitely helped.


I worry the most when my loved ones aren't with me. If DH has a business trip I'm a wreck until I know he's at his destination safely. Last weekend my parents watched DS while DH and I went away for the weekend. My parents were thinking about taking their own roadtrip (with DS) about 90 miles away. I worried about a) something happening to me and DH and b) something happening to DS while he was traveling with my parents. Fortunately for my sanity my parents ended up cancelling their trip.

[bhoneycutt]

All of the above suggestions are wonderful. Anxiety meds have helped me greatly in the past. Prayer helps tremendously!!! Journaling is good. I think going to a therapist is very helpful as well. It makes me feel loads better to just talk things out. My therapist also helps me with relaxation techniques for when stuff is bothering me when I am trying to fall asleep or when I dwell constantly on a certain problem and can't seem to get over it. Good luck!