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Old 10-25-2009, 05:42 PM
amibubbly
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Question What should I do?

In short, I am the youngest of three. All my life, parents never put high expectation on me, as a matter of fact; they always told my older siblings that I am not that smart and that it's good enough for them to see me graduate from high school because I am lazy. Parents always involve in the success of my siblings' education; on the other hand, they always told me, this was even after I proven my parents wrong about me once I graduated from high school and got a scholarship to go to university; that I should take the easiest major that does not hard for me to study and a major that is not too long to finish. My two older siblings got anything they want from new car, each one of them got apartment that cost $1000,00 each to rent; they got to experience nice things that I never got to experience. I finally graduated from university with 3.75 GPA and no one is excited about it. Anyway, years gone by, my two siblings always work together try to make their own company so they can hold an important position in a company and they never consider me but if I got a deal from some companies that want to work with me, guess what? both siblings without asking my permission, included themselves in the deal and they took over from me but results always did not turn good. A lot of times are like this, I would not be considered in a business but if I have some chances in business then siblings would jump in right away. Brother always told me that my degree is nothing. He owns a restaurant now and he said that I can be a part time waitress working there. I seriously was shocked when he offered me a job as a waitress. I am thinking hard what I should do to be able to move on with my life and not be discouraged like this all the time. Whenever I am in trouble everyone would disappear afraid of me asking their help but if it's the opposite, gosh my phone does not stop ringing. Now that I have a husband and a daughter, still siblings treat me the same. My sister always told me that I am poor and that I can not afford to take care of our daughter, therefore; I need to write a will and put her as the number 1 person who is in charge of my daughter. My sister is still single although she is 35 yrs old now because she always after a guy older than her who has $$$$$ and my brother who always say about making a company, meeting with important people, having a business deal worth of millions of dollars, and all that stuff; really different than myself. To be honest, I am so the opposite from them two because I live average, have a family, and I don't mind being in the bottom of the ladder because I believe life is like a wheel, there must be one time that I would be on top, so I am not worrying too much and just work my way up. Parents never involved in my career or school as much as they put their time and energy on my siblings. I really am so frustrated in times with my situation like this and I don't know what I should do. My husband always told me that I am too nice to them and that I gotta get out from US and just cut relationship with them, so that I can live happy without someone will discourage me ever again but I found its hard to do.
 

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