[nina]

I am 33 yrs old - married 10 yrs - 2 children. During my childhood, I had experienced abuse - Emotional and physical on a daily basis. I have a very high-strung, short-tempered, "I'm always right" father. Every day there was fighting in the house - always started by my dad. I was never allowed to go out with friends. I was mostly home by myself in my room or in the house. I've always resented my mother and father for not being the parents that I feel that I am now with my children.

Whenever my parents come over - it's always negative comments. I know that my parents would do anything for me - but I feel if the "love" isn't there or can be felt - what's the point. My mother will call me up frantically if I didn't answer the phone the minute she called. She feels that I need to call her first before I go anywhere. I shouldn't have to!!! If we have a conversation on the phone, she never has anything nice to say - NEGATIVE!!! ALWAYS!!! The other day, she called me yelling at me b/c a cousin of mine had a bbq with friends and didn't invite me. I'm always doing favors for this cousin - b/c I like to - she never does for me b/c I never ask her to. Well my mom was furious b/c I wasn't invited. She called yelling at me b/c she said that I'm "Stupid". That "I let them walk all over me". I told her that I'm 33 yrs old and am capable of making my own decissions. Well - you know what she said? She said "If I find out that you do another favor for your cousin, you could forget about your mother." I told her that I didn't have time for this and that I was going to hang up now. That was last Wed morning, July 27th. It's now Monday, Aug 1st and I haven't heard from her. This is how she deals with things. She won't call me. I believe that your mother should be there no matter what - and by her doing that, she isn't. Am I wrong???