[erinellakal]

For those of you who are done having kids how do you know when you don't want anymore?
Does the baby fever just go away? or not come at all?

Was there a defining moment when you just KNEW that you had all the kids you wanted?

I thought i was done, i felt like I was happy having 3 kids. I was looking forward to having kids and not babies anymore.
I never wanted to be pregnant again.

BUT just in the last few weeks I have been feeling that baby fever creeping up on me from time to time.

I haven't brought up the idea to dh cuz i know his response will be a resounding NO WAY! and i just don't want to hear that.

What do you think? Will the feeling pass, should i just ignore it? Tell it to go away? L0L!

[Tracey with 6]

good luck with that cos I thought I was done at 6, am now ttcing number 8

[erinellakal]

WOW #8! Thats amazing! How do you get dh to agree to more? Or is it his idea?
I always said i wanted 6 and dh always just laughed at me(but i was serious!) but i have had 3 c-sections already and OB said one more is ok, but probably not more than that.

sigh..........

[browneyes01]

I have three boys and I said i was done having kids, but i have started to date this wonderful man and he is constantly talking about having a child with me and he has gotten me to start thinking that maybe i want to have another baby, I'm first going to see how our relationship goes as we have only been dating for about 7 momthes but I realluy do enjoy him and his company and if it works out i will have a baby with him.

[ProudMommy77]

It took me until about a month ago to realize that I feel quite happy with my family, and that I don't have the "Craving" that I had when I wanted my second child. I had two c-sections, and I'm not sure that I, personally, want to go through it again. I feel content, but that took me a long time to get to this point. Who knows, though. Every once in a while I feel like maybe there should be one more little one. But not for a while!

[Samual]

There is no way we will be having anymore children, Frank wants to but if we were to do that we would have to move house, which Frank doesn't want to do and I'm not willing to do, we would have to get a people carrier, which is considered a big no no by both of us. When he sits down and truely thinks it through, he knows there is no way we can bring another child into the house, which he admits does make him want another child even more. We had baby fever for about three years before we finally decided to become parents. As we adopt, he hates the idea that because we cannot adopt again, a child may be going withou a family.
He knows once Pippa is 18 we'll start fostering again, so he looks to that instead.

[MissyChrissy]

I'd love to have more, but my dh doesn't want more. So we're done. I'm ok with it.

I'm like you-sometimes the desire for another one is almost unbearable. But that feeling does ebb & flow. Right now I'm very ok with being 'done'

[daddyoftwogirls]

I guess you just know it, but sometimes other circumstances help make up your mind (economy, job, age, health).

[mcmama]

Nah, the circumstances often don't get in the way. I would have loved to have six, but both kids were big, and the ex was against it, so that was it. He wanted to stop at one, and I said no no no. The marriage was definitedly headed toward crazyville by the time the youngest was born, and I couldn't bring another child into it. So I was 35 by then and that was that.

Now that it is REALLY impossible, I cannot imagine women my age (probably the same age as some of your moms) wanting to give birth.

[twinzplus3]

We're done bc my c/s (or rather the birth) of my last baby went so badly. It was a forced done. . .but if I'm not done then I might not be around to raise any of the others I create. So we're done and it's all good.