[ladyj759]

Morning Everyone:
I have a 19 year old SD. Honestly I think that she is years behind in maturity level. She still doesn't drive, cannot handle money and acts irresponsibly.
There are certain things that she will say or do and my husband thinks that it is absolutely funny - like you would when your toddler does something.
Since her father is out due to a work injury we told both of our daughters that we were cutting back for Christmas and to give us a list of little things - what does she list - a small handheld camcorder oh and jokingly a car or college education. Well, when my husband read the list he thought it was sooo cute.
I also understand that she got fired from one of her 2 part time jobs. One pays for part of her health insurance and the other gives her a 40% discount on clothing (expensive, no less). She was quoted as saying "I was laughing hysterically just thinking about it". Since her Dad is playing chaueffer (yes, because she thinks working to pay for car insurance, gas etc doesn't make any sense) we will see just what job she is not going to go to this week. I won't say a word - just sit back and wait.
My question to all of you - when does this stop. There are times when I simply cannot stand the sight of her. She will be 19 soon and she has no clear direction in life. I don't find the things she says or does the least bit funny. When I say something to him about her actions or responsibility his reply is that she is just like her mother and it is like talking to the wall. He doesn't see why I feel the way I do. I always taught my daughter that as long as she was doing what she needed to do to take care of her business in life - I would not have a problem helping her out from time to time. With his daughter it seems like if she is not going to help herself, Daddy steps in. I am afraid that he will buy her a car (used) and use the excuse of that he needed to do something because he was tired of being a chaueffer. When I try to talk to him about my situation with his daughter his reply "well if you would only treat her like you do yours".
Any suggestions? I need to find some peace in my heart.