[dlr]

Does anyone else feel like this? I feel like nothing I ever do is right and that I let my girls down. I'm feeling so frustrated with everything lately toys, dishes, laundry and all I want to do is lay down, but then I get even more frustrated because it still isn't done and I just took a nap. I feel like I am always telling my girls no, don't touch, leave it alone. It breaks my heart to see the disappointed look on my oldest DD face when she asks me to read her a book and I tell her not right now or later because I am trying to finish something. I just remember the feelings that I had when I was little that no one ever wanted to spend time with just me, I had younger siblings that needed more care, I know this now and why, but at the time I never felt important. I don't ever want my babies to feel that way. I always feel the older one sacrifices everything because of the littler one, and I hate that feeling too, we'll have to leave the library because the little one is screaming, she now has to share her bedroom because #3 is a boy, I feel like she feels like she has nothing of her own, toys have to be shared. I am just feeling like the worst mom lately, with baby #3, trying to get things done, I'm just feeling out of sorts and feeling lost. I just don't know what to do. DH always says to relax, easier said than done lately. Sorry about the long message.

[deedee1231]

Oh you are breaking my heart! You are being way too hard on yourself and you are definately not the worst mom in the world! You are 32 weeks pregnant, you are bound to feel out of sorts and overwhelmed. You are entitled to feel that way! But don't get too down on yourself! The fact that you are concerned that you aren't spending enough time with the oldest dd that shows you are thinking about her needs and that you care. I am sure you will make sure that she gets what she needs.

I was also an oldest daughter, I had to share my room, my toys, books, dolls, everything, with my little sis. I didn't always like it, and neither will your daughter, I imagine. But now, as an adult, I have a wonderful relationship with my sister, she is so much more than just a sister, she is my best friend. My twin daughters have to share a room and they share all the toys and everything else they have. I think it is good for them to learn how to play and share without fighting over every little thing. I really does them some good in the long run, and I am hoping it will lead to them having the same kind of relationship I have with my little sister once they are grown.
So, take some time to relax for a minute, (you still have 7 weeks to get everything done, after all ) sit down with that little sweetheart and read her books to her while you have some soothing tea or ice water, and feel confident that you are doing a good job!

[Tracey with 6]

it sounds like mummy guilt to me.... lets take a look at this, are your girls dressed and fed? do you love them? yes to both right! do you drink copious amounts of alcohol and take drugs? of course you don't, you are not a bad mummy!!!! you re an overwhelmed mummy! 3 children in 4 years will do that to you. i know it doesn't seem this way but your kids will survive , sharing is caring is what I say ( I have 7 kids) and as to reading books, try to make a special time maybe with daddy to read books, we do it when I am feeding the baby, so I have to be still so I might as well do something I can do. and don't stress the housework, it will still be there tomorrow.HUGS lovey what your feling is normal.

[QueenAngie]

You are a good Mommy! Just overwhelmed and very pg today!

Your kids are fed, clean, wear clean clothes (hence the laundry), you go to the library w/ them. You are a good Mom!

[vanaden]

I know exactley how you feel. Just the fact that you are worrying about this makes me feel that you are a fantastic mom who is very in tune with what your family needs Being pregnant like you are, it is only natural to need time to relax and be by yourself or to finish chores, I am sure you are worn out and tired. Don't be so hard on yourself.
I am beginning to realize that for me, a clean house isn't worth the time, energy or aggrevation. I would rather have a sink full of dishes and 3 baskets full of laundry to fold than feel like a crappy mom. I am working on things myself, you are not alone! It's a hard painful lesson to learn, but once you make up your mind, hey I'm going to spend some special time and begin to build new bonds (tying strings) you really begin to feel better about yourself! With just a few weeks before your new one arrives, now is a great time to spend extra time with your kids.
Something as simple as reading through a book, singing a silly song, dancing around together, or just talking with your kids can do wonders. Before long you'll be wondering, what was I so stressed about, I'm a great mom!
I hope this isn't so long, I could ramble all day
Take it easy!

[erinellakal]

I have been in your shoes and want to send you lots of (((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((( HUGS)))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))) )
It is hard to spread your time out between your kids, dh, the house, the dog(if you have one), plus groceries, paying bills.....on and on and on! Its not EASY!
Take some time and just breath, the kids will survive. They need a happy, relaxed mommy more than a clean and organized house.

One thing that i do with the girls that just totally makes thier day is to sit and look thru a picture album and talk about how much fun we had in the pictures! It only takes 10 minutes and they LOVE IT! When i feel guilty about not taking the time for a book or to play barbies this makes up for it cuz i know they are just filled to the top with hapiness when we're done!
Take care!

[dlr]

Thanks everyone. I was having a rough few days. I am trying not to let things bother me and think of all the stuff that we do and that I am blessed with and greatful for. My DH told me that I needed a break and let me go shopping all by myself last nite, we usually all go or I will take one of them, I actually had a full cart of groceries!! My DD's are so funny, the stuff they say and do, they are for the most part very well behaved, we always eat together, that's important to me as a family. I just have to look at the other side and not worry about everything that I need to get done, someday, it will get done. Thanks for all the support, I needed it.

[PrettyInPinkx4]

First off ((((HUGS))))

You're not the worst mom in the world. You sound stressed. And I think DH is right, get out of the house, "reset" and give yourself a fun time out without kids, alone. Don't think about what you are coming home too, think about yourself FOR ONCE

Then, figure out a schedule for yourself. WHO CARES IF THE HOUSE IS SPOTLESS? If your happy, and your kids are happy, I wouldn't stress about it. Have the kids help pick up the toys, in my house if you can make the mess, you can clean it up! The world will not crumble if you can't juggle EVERYTHING at once. But, you can prioritize. If you want to read to DD, do it at bedtime and take that extra 5 minutes.

Good luck! I've been there and done that, so I totally understand

[kiwittc]

oh gawd I SOOO hear you....I am over the washing piles and the housework and running myself ragged after a toddler at the end of a long day at work...

I am at the point where I ignore my housework until I cannot bear it...and do beat mysself up internally for it too...i actually paid for a laundry service a few weeks back as I could not get the towels all done...it kept on raining and raining...so Dh took them to laundry and pad $25 tohave them done...but what a relief...a total treat but well worth it....

I hear you and send you a HUGE hug from here....I wish we could all afford to have someone magially come in and clean up every day etc....I am seriously considering getting some one in just to do washing....sad but true!!!!

[browneyes01]

don't get so down on yourself we all ahve days when we feel like we just can't do anything right and it's okay to feel like this because no one is perfect because if there where perfect people out there the world would be a perfect place and it isn't so take a deeep breath and feel better tomorrow.