[Nitwit]

So Saturday night dh and I went to a local poolhall we used to work at. We stayed there until like midnight and I noticed my back was hurting a little bit. I thought okay it's a back ache. We came home and went to bed. I woke up Sunday morning and it still hurt... like it had woken me up a couple times at night but I didn't think anything of it. The pain then started to come in waves... about 5-10 mins apart... ... so... I called the dr around 8pm last night and she said to go to L&D. Dh had to pick up dsd so he dropped me off and got her. The plan was for him to come up there when my mil and fil came home from grocery shopping. So I'm laying up there in pain having actual contractions and the nurse checks my cervix and says it's soft and fingertip. So then they give me a terbutaline series and then checked me again... which was about 3 hours later than the first check... she thought I was maybe a 1... all in all they gave me indesin (SP) for the pain and then some ambien. I woke up this morning in the hospital. The doctor checked me and said 1cm, -2 and his head was down really low... like she could feel his head... so neways... now I'm on strict bedrest at leat until my appointment on wednesday and from there they'll decide whether to keep me on bedrest until I'm 34 weeks.. Right now I'm 32 weeks 3 days.. so here's the clincher.. dh says its my fault b/c I haven't been taking care of myself... fil says it's cuz I'm dehydrated and mil washed all dh's clothes and left mine in the hamper....I am on strict bedrest... no laundry no cleaning no dsd... bed pee bed shower bed eat bed... that's it ... but this is all my fault so I still have to do all the other stuff I'm not supposed to do.. I have half a mind to go to my moms for the duration of this pregnancy and maybe a little longer... I'm always so freaking stressed out here... YESTERDAY day DH LOCKED me OUT of the HOUSE in like 30F weather yesterday with no shoes on and a velor (SP) jacket on... talk about stress.

[sp2arky]

From reading most of your past posts, I would have to say that I think you would be better off at your mom's! For your DH to actually lock you out of the house and the other treatment that you are receiving from fellow people in the house.....I would have to say get the heck out! I don't mean to sound harsh or anything like that, but you have to think about yourself and your baby. The longer you keep that baby in the better off he is going to be. The less stress that you have to deal with, will help you with keeping the baby in and keeping your sanity!

Try and take care of yourself and forget about the mean people around you! Atleast you have all of us here to listen and talk too.

[twinzplus3]

I have to agree. I wouldn't stay if I were treated like that.

[angelstarsmum]

Oh im sorry hun{{{hugs}}} bed rest means bed rest sorry to sound nasty but don't your dh, mil and fil understand this as for locking you out of the house hun, well i think he's lost it sorry!!! Go and stay at your mums hun im sure if you mum knew this she would be soooo angry and i think you would have better care there, you don't need any stress now just rest. I really feel for you Whitney nows the time you need support and love but you know all the ladies and myself will give you great big cyber hugs

[morgansdodgedoll]

sounds to me like your mom's is a good place for you to be. the less stress the better. i hope all goes well for you

[purelegance]

we said it before, but now it's SERIOUS. if you don't go to your moms, cooper will come way too early.

[mommy2067]

Whit for you and Coop's sake...pack your bags and get to mom's house...You need to be somewhere where you can get the rest you need and feel comfortable and loved and taken care of...not stressed out all the time and made to feel like everything is your fault....We are here for you...your mom is there for you...so you know what you need to do...not to be harsh either...but no more wavering...just do it!!! ((((((HUGS))))) for you and Coop!!

[Nitwit]

I asked dh what he thought and he was like whatever you want to do... but I don't want to be without him... it's not so much as him... b/c the locking out the house yesterday was an accident but at the same time it wasn't... its mostly mil and fil... I literally just got up to get some water and I went into the kitchen and mil was standing there. I said hi... and she said hi and walked out of the kitchen... I know better to call her on it because it'll turn into this is all MY fault b/c I don't eat enough veggies or eat right at all... so now I'm confused as to what to do....

[angelstarsmum]

You sound sooo confused hun! if you stay with your mom for a few weeks would dh come and stay with you? cos it will only be 2 wks or so and perhaps iy would do the 2 of you some good to have time away from the mil and fil! sending you lots of hugs hun.xxxx

[Nitwit]

no he wouldn't b/c of dsd... he wouldn't leave her... I don't know what's going on... I'm trying not to stress about it until my appointment on wednesday....